I went to the funeral today of a friend. There was a small representation of family. There were many friends from a variety of places where she had worked. I was the only one from our twelve-step group. She was a dear lady with a great spirit.
I met her husband for the first time and tried not to hold any resentments. We join our twelve-step program because of the struggles we have getting along with one of our loved ones. In confidence, she sometimes told us about her struggles with him. That was her struggle. There is no need for me to hold it against him. He has his own struggles.