My neighbor spilled a bunch of trash into my yard when he took his trash can out to the alley. He has done this before and it doesn’t seem to bother him. He also has a lot of trash spread around in his own yard, so I guess this is not important to him.

I have tried talking with him a few times and he just ignores me like I do not exist.

I started nursing a resentment about looking at the trash in his yard. I then added to that resentment with anger about him spilling trash into my yard - yet again. Today I started getting downright angry when I went out to pick up his trash from my yard.

Then I thought about it. Who am I hurting - just me. Who cares about the trash - just me. Does he even see the trash in his own yard - no. So, I decided to let it go. I will assume he is clueless.

I think he is under the influence most of the time I see him. I have learned that talking with someone who is loaded is a waste of time. So, for now, I will let this one slide.

If ever I see him and he seems coherent, I might try again to ask him to not let his trash spill into my yard. Otherwise, I guess I will need to call the property manager. No need to start a confrontation. No need to carry a resentment.

Boundary - I say it is inappropriate to spill trash into my yard.

Consequence - I will call the property manager and complain to them rather than talking with someone who is under the influence.