silence

Most people struggle with silence. Alanis Morissette inserted about 30 seconds of silence into one of her albums and the effect was startling. I often lead meetings and I have learned the value of silence. Having the patience to wait allows those who are reluctant to become ready. It takes practice.

Often whoever feels the most uncomfortable speaks next. This is not always the goal. People who have been in meetings longer typically understand the patience and respect we express by waiting for others.

Yesterday I went to meeting and together we waited expectantly for one hour. This group understands silence and practices with it weekly. There was no message ready for the hour. We waited. We listened. We adjourned.

I am sometimes asked to explain the difference between prayer and meditation. I generally say prayer is us speaking. Meditation is us listening. It takes practice to learn to listen.